it is what it is

During Covid my son was going crazy. He was living alone in an Oakland apartment when the pandemic hit. Sure he worked remotely but that wasn’t enough social contact. He said, “I am going out of my mind.”

Needing excitement, as any 22 year old year old male needs, his solution to the situation was to jump out of airplanes. That was one of the things you could do then. Clearly it was outside and more than 6 feet apart from others. I was not happy about it. 

As a tall skinny guy, I was worried for his back. I was worried in general. Because he went up in the planes, he got a free subscription to a parachute magazine. His mail still came to my home address since his address was temporary. Every time that magazine came, I threw it in the trash. 

I pleaded with him to stop jumping out of airplanes. It was starting to damage his hearing. Besides, seemed these pilots didn’t have a lot of regulations. Maybe almost anybody with a plane could get a license to do this. Finally, my pleads became demands. He reluctantly agreed.

One night at dinner, outside in my driveway 6 feet apart with masks on, during that strange time when you couldn’t even hug your kids for fear of death, my son said,

“The Bay Area is the problem.”

My daughter and I countered, “No, Covid is the problem

“The bay area is the problem. I am going to move to New York City“

I didn’t want him to move to New York City. I selfishly wanted him to stay in Oakland where he grew up, in California. Doesn’t everyone like California? However, I knew that he was his own person, and as a young adult, he should be able to do what he wanted to do.

He said, “Either I move to New York City, or I continue jumping out of planes.“

I said, “All right then, move to New York City.” 

He’s been happy there ever since. Thank goodness he visits Oakland twice a year.

This last vacation, he brought his girlfriend. They went to Valencia Street, one of my favorite hoods in San Francisco. They took the subway, and were disgusted by the walk from the Mission St. Station to Valencia Street. That’s a block and a half, if you count the alley, where a lot of homeless people live. Once on Valencia Street, they were not impressed. Not much is able to hold a candle against New York City.

He grew up in the very nice part of Oakland. College Avenue runs between the California College of Art (CCA) and UC Berkeley. It is well heeled. The last evening they were here, parked on College Ave for karaoke night with friends, the car was broken into. 

My son, being street smart, is careful never to leave anything in a car in the bay area. We all know you can’t do that. You will be subject to “smash and grab”. There was nothing in the car. The vandals broke the back window. From there they went into the trunk. There was nothing in the trunk.

My son was furious. In the rental car contract, you cannot drive a damaged car so he called Hertz to return the car. He could not return the car from the location where it was rented because that location was closed on Sundays. He was told to go to a different location. When they went to the different location, near the airport, they were charged $200 for not returning the car to the original location.

The Hertz parking lot had many broken windows. People with reservations, just off the plane, were unable to get their car because it had been vandalized. Usually after a client returns a car, it is vacuumed and given it to the next person. Not so with a broken window.

“I told you the bay area was the problem. It’s pathetic here with all the homeless and all the crime.” 

For a living he analyzes data. He quickly pulled up facts on his phone. 

“Per capita there are more homeless, more crime, and more murders in Oakland than  New York City. Oakland is the second most dangerous city in the United States, the first being Baltimore.” I don’t think that is true, but I don’t know. I got his point.

The bay area is so expensive, the people who teach in the schools can’t afford to live here. San Francisco is not what it used to be. We were the haven for the out of the box eclectics. In the 1949 gold rush all kinds of adventurous entrepreneurs came here to change their lives. In the 1960s came the hippies. In the 1980s the gays came. All of this made the city more vibrant and desirable

However, when the techies came, we didn’t benefit. They made housing more expensive and restaurants unaffordable. Shelter and food inaccessible, people became homeless. Crime at an all time high, even Macy’s is closing it’s doors after 101 years.

Almost all the merchandise at Target is in cases under lock and key, even laundry detergent. You cannot shop there at night because it is too dangerous in the parking lot.

The California College of Art (CCA) founded in 1907 recently announced its intention to close. It is the third and final art school in the bay area to close. Now we have no art schools.

CCA was bought by Nashville-based Vanderbilt University. Additionally, the San Francisco Art Institute (1871) and Mill’s college (1852) have folded; their deep history now also gone.   The 82 billionaires living in the bay area didn’t help. They are on their own kind of gold rush. 

The CCA Oakland campus is going to be turned into 451 units of market value real estate.  451 is the temperature that books burn. Curious that a university would choose such a number. 

The Bay Area has a problem.

What’s punk in 2025?

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On my computer from KQED is a newsletter blurb. The enticing headline was about reviving a punk club from the 70s and 80s. I wondered if I could be the “”Mabuhay’” because I was here then and that was the only punk club I knew. And went to.

Although I knew I had been to the Mabuhay I couldn’t remember anything about my experiences there and wasn’t sure whether I had gone with Vincent before the fall or Linda after the fall. I texted Linda. Yes, she remembered going there and thanked me for the memory. Then I asked her about the 181 club which she didn’t remember to my astonishment. I texted back “You and I had been to hell and back when we met but compared to what was going on at the 181 we were innocents.”

A few hours later after riding on BART and emerging into and navigating through the low life on16th between Mission and Valencia, I walk a mile to the gallery where I will sit for four hours watching people and selling art.

Two people walk in. I think they’re guys and I say “Hey guys” when I realize that one of them has breasts and is probably not technically a guy but then I recognize that “guys”. although perhaps politically incorrect, is often said referring to an all-around person and not just a male so I’m not too embarrassed about the fact that I’ve used a masculine term for a couple. Then I think the Spanish language does this all the time. All of these thought processes take less than a second.

When the person with the breasts speaks they have a much deeper and fuller voice then the guy with the beard. It’s of no business of me or mine what the pronouns are. I’m never interested in that. I’m interested in who the person is, not what sex they like or are.

We greet each other, and after I ask them how their day is going, and hear their answer, I tell them that I have them trying to figure out who owns PayPal. This is a true icebreaker. We are at it right away… with Musk, Amazon, Airbnb: billionaire bashing.

These two people are so young and beautiful and alive and smart and all sexes at once, just so. This is in someway innocent compared to what they were doing at the 181 in the tenderloin of SF 40 years ago. That was scarier: more dangerous and vulnerable

But hey what’s going down for vulnerable today if not now everyone?

A woman in a hat with the dog comes in. The white dog is named Julian. Julian is so full of love, all I have to do is look at him, tilt my head a little, and he starts to wag his tail.

The woman with the hat and dog mentions the news. We together lament the news as I had been doing earlier in a different way billionare bashing with the guys.

This woman is more pointedly directed towards fascism. I wholeheartedly agree with her and say something hopefully stupid like “Still, it couldn’t happen like it happened in World War II“

She says “It’s already happening. They’re already taking innocent people and putting them away“.

All I could do is agree.

She bought a set of my heart card images. She paid cash and she, after tax, didn’t want the 72cents change. Told me to keep it. The heart cards she bought I originally made in February as “Valentines”. After February I call them “Love cards”.

Who doesn’t need a little more love?

San Francisco Chinese New Year Parade 2025!

On the Subway we are wondering how all the groups are going to make a snake costume. We have seen cute monkeys, pigs, and rabbits but are having difficulty imagining a cute snake on our way to the Chinese new year parade 2025.

Coming out of the underground with most of the train, ascending the escalator, we can hear the drums, gaining momentum. The air is festive. It’s friendly all around.

We get to our desired spot and eventually edge our way in to the front next to the fence. Placement at the parade is paramount. At our corner, there are those lining the pavement, others standing on utility boxes, and a bunch of youth on a scaffolding where a building is being upgraded.

As soon as we are in place we begin the wave. We wave at everyone and everyone waves back. It’s agreed. We are celebrating life together. I am waving at beautiful women in beautiful costumes, at little kids playing their drums, at high school and college bands in full regalia with trimmed sashes and white tipped shoes. It is a night of forgiveness. We even wave at the casino ladies and the politicians in red mustangs.

There are illuminated dragons chasing pearls galore and innovative homemade 20’ long snakes. There are cool guys with green rimmed lights on the bottom of their shoes, which make them look like they are levitating as they run through their martial art routine.

The real martial artists are the ones on the scaffolding. I watch them get to the fire escape of the adjacent building. They move up from the first to the second to the third etc. until they are at the eighth floor when the scaffolding changes to a very long thin ladder which reaches the roof. I watch them until they get to the ladder and then I can’t look anymore.

A group of elementary school kids are dressed as Mahjong pieces. It is like the game board is tumbling down the street. I look back up and I can’t see the kids on the scaffolding anymore.

The best fun is to get “kissed” by a lion’s furry eyelash because it’s great good luck. That’s why you have to be up against the fence. I got kissed.

Then the red Lucky shopping cart rolls by. It is way gigantic, so the many people inside it look tiny, like a Gulliver’s Travel adventure.

On the subway home there is a kid in an appropriately sized stroller. He can see himself in the opposite glass. He is waving happily at himself and himself is waving back.